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Living My Big Dream

January 5th, 2013 at 2:07 am

Never Forget Big Dreams Can Change

Five years ago, when I began Living My Big Dream, I knew exactly what I wanted. I wanted to make enough money to be financially free and never have to worry about bills or my car breaking down or an unexpected illness again.  All in all I thought it sounded like an admirable Big Dream – and one shared by many others.

But no matter what rational I used or what fantasy life I dreamed up, I couldn’t bring myself to make the pursuit of money the most important mission in my life.

Next, I decided if maybe I could help people while making money, that could be a reasonable compromise. Helping people was my new Big Dream. I wrote articles on topics which I shared some expertise. I answered emails and any other form or correspondence. And yes, I’d like to think at least some people came away better informed. But I wasn’t earning enough to even pretend I had a paying job.

And then, to put it bluntly, all hell broke lose. I had many personal, financial, and medical setbacks. The worst of which was being diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, a severe mental illness that causes frequent and devastating struggles for it sufferers.

Today my Big Dream is to live a normal life. To learn how to cope with the specific challenges I face on top of the struggles we all face everyday. I will continue to post about ways to make money online and off, how to live frugally, and how to experience life to the fullest no matter what gets thrown at you.

March 30th, 2012 at 12:51 pm

When Life Turns Into A Tornado….Toto, I’m just not in Kansas anymore.

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Okay, Okay, I know it’s been awhile. Okay, more than awhile. My only explaination is life came up to my door one day and whacked my upside the head, handed me a seat belt and said “get ready for the ride of your life”

Imagine a hundred year old wooden roller coaster and you’ll understand the type of ride I was in for. Scary.

So…that being said, things are still pretty chaotic but in a more controllable way if such a thing is possible and so I come back to my first love….blogging.

A summary of my “new” life. I’m in the middle of separating from my husband and moving into a friends basement until I can secure affordable housing. My older children are moving in with relatives and my youngest is staying with me. I am currently working full time as a freelance writer/blogger but looking into virtual assistant positions and starting a life coaching company.

As for the future of Living My Big Dream, it’s going to stay pretty much the same. I’ll be expanding outside the personal finance niche into some other categories that I feel tie in nicely with living the life you’ve always imagined.

Also, I want to say I’ve missed you all and I’m glad to be back.


November 6th, 2011 at 8:42 pm

It’s About to Begin Again…

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July 6th, 2010 at 10:19 pm

Is Anything Worse Than Summer Insomnia?

Summers in the North East are pretty much like riding in a roller coaster while jumping up and down. Exciting, interesting, and bound to make you sick.

The last few summers here in Rhode Island have been a stretch of wet weather followed by a stretch of heat wave weather. I can’t say we’ve had all that much rain (we most likely got our fill during the floods a few months ago) but the heat has reared it’s ugly head.

On top of that, I have had trouble sleeping for the past five or six weeks. If I can get five hours, I consider it a good night. This heat of course makes this worse. And the worst of all, my mattress has pretty much kicked the bucket (if mattresses can do that) and provides no support while I sleep.

In a few weeks I hope to go shopping for a new mattress, until then…warm milk anyone?

July 6th, 2010 at 10:05 pm

A “New” Way To Quit Smoking

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I am quite proud to say that I quit smoking cold turkey almost 8 years ago. I have not so much taken one drag of a cigarette since then.

The other day I came across a site talking about electronic cigarettes, which are basically small vaporizer that emits a tiny amount of nicotine. Some studies claim that electronic cigarettes are a safer alternative to regular cigarettes, while others say that the nicotine is more addictive when inhaled from an electronic cigarette.

Either way, I am glad that I quit years ago and don’t have to deal with the ridiculous price of “cancer sticks” anymore.

June 1st, 2010 at 12:16 pm

A Hot Vacation Destination For Families With Children

Vacations are no doubt a luxury item and usually one of the first things to be cut when money gets tight.

Yet, as a mother, I always like to try and do something for the kids during the summer. This year we’ve already gone to Florida but still I wondered if there was something fun for kids and maybe a little out of the box as well.

I found what I was looking for in Missouri of all places. Apparently a National Kids Fest is held for nearly two months – from June to August and offer a ton of fun things to do for kids of all ages.

Although we probably won’t make it, if you’re interested now is the time to think about purchasing one of many affordable Branson vacation packages.

May 19th, 2010 at 9:33 pm

Hating My Gateway Laptop

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Okay, I usually don’t like to complain (oh, okay, maybe sometimes I do) but when I buy something is it foolish of me to expect it to…I don’t know…work?

Years ago, for my very first desktop computer, I purchased a Gateway. Last year when I was shopping for a laptop to make work easier and more convenient (and mobile) I figured I would once again go with Gateway.

Big mistake. I’ve had nothing but problems with this computer. I’ve had to send it away three times, once because the screen just wigged out and twice because overheating issues killed it.

Although I would love to buy another notebook, I’m stuck with this one for awhile. But I’m telling you, next time I’m going with something with a better track record like the Sony VAIO.

May 15th, 2010 at 1:29 pm

What If Wrinkles Aren’t Your Biggest Problem?

Hey, let’s face it, we’re all getting older. And the older you get the more you seem to hear about fighting the signs of aging – wrinkles, age spots, fine lines, crow’s feet, etc..etc..etc..

Luckily, I’ve been blessed with smooth skin. Unluckily I’ve been cursed with skin that breaks out easily and eyes that naturally have dark circles under them which are made worse by chronic insomnia.

So I search for an eye cream that can help but won’t aggravate my sensitive skin. Do you know what I find? 90% of eye creams on the market talk about reducing fine lines and eliminating the signs of aging from around the eyes but don’t mention if they do anything to help dark circles.

Even the top rated eye cream I could find didn’t say anything about brightening up bags under the eyes. The few creams I’ve found that do refer to dark eye circles mention it almost as an afterthought and none of the ones that I’ve tried have made any significant difference.

So for now I guess I’ll have to stick to using a little extra foundation under the eyes to cover the dark marks. I’ll also ask anyone out there who knows of an affordable and effective eye cream to let me know. I’m also open to natural alternatives if anyone has a good recipe for one.

And for all those eye cream companies out there I want to let you know that wrinkles aren’t the only problems us women face so try thinking outside the crow’s feet once in awhile.

May 15th, 2010 at 1:09 pm

Saving Time Versus Saving Money

Despite my normal enthusiasm to use the Internet for anything and everything possible, online shopping is something I still have hesitation for. Probably the biggest reason is my impatience, I hate waiting for my purchases to show up days or weeks later. The second reason for my dislike is the shipping costs although I will admit that most sites have deals on shipping and many offer free shipping on orders over a certain dollar amount.

On the other hand, shopping online is convenient I can’t deny. I can purchase groceries, prescriptions, and any gifts I need to buy all without leaving my desk or dragging my bored child from store to store. Additionally I can pre-order that DVD I know I’m going to want as soon as it comes out, order my vacation pictures printed and mailed, and buy any office supplies I’m going to need in the future.

In some cases it might be cheaper to shop locally. In some cases it might be easier to shop online. As it stands now, I’m split about 80/20 in favor of shopping in the real world. When I do shop online I mostly stick to Walmart which offers free “ship to site” shipping to the store near my home and Amazon which offers really good prices on entertainment and has a low $25 limit for free shipping.

I am currently looking for a decent online photo developing company. I’ve heard Snapfish is good and offers  a lot of special services while  CVS and Walgreens are affordable and I can pick up my prints nearby. If you know of a good place to order pics online, leave a comment and let me know.

May 15th, 2010 at 12:43 pm

There Are No Shortcuts To Losing Weight

At the beginning of the year I wrote a list of 100 goals that I would like to accomplish. One of the goals was to weigh a healthy weight which for me is between 130 and 140 pounds. Since I’ve been overweight for the last 17 years, I wanted to make sure I approached this is the smartest way possible.

I’ve never been one for fad diets, I don’t want to heavily limit my food choices since I know that will lead to failure, and I don’t believe in diet pills. To me diet pills are a wild promise that something that isn’t easy, will be easy.

Even with this negative opinion of diet pills, I was intrigued when I heard about Alli – the only weight loss pill approved by the FDA. And as usual when I am intrigued, I search online to learn more.

I can across many, many, manyalli reviews from various sources with various qualifications. First mentioned is the way Alli “works” by blocking some of the fat in the food that you eat from being absorbed allowing up to 50% more weight loss than just dieting and exercise alone. The example they give of this is that you can lose 15 pounds by including Alli instead of just 10 pounds with just watching what you eat and exercising regularly.

And it is true that the FDA approved Alli as being truthful in its claim – it will block some fat. But it’s important to know, and Alli is the first to say it, that without dieting and exercising Alli isn’t going to do you much good.

Furthermore, as far as I’m concerned, I would rather not take a pill if I don’t have to.

To sum up, if you want a little help losing your extra weight, Alli won’t hurt and may even help a little. But if you are looking for an easy way to a size four, this isn’t it.