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February 2nd, 2010 at 2:47 pm

Being Brave Enough To Be Yourself

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. — Oscar Wilde

 A couple of weeks ago I was talking to my daughter who is in Kindergarten. She was talking about two little classmates who didn’t like her and wouldn’t let her be in their “club”. When I asked her why she couldn’t be in the club she said it was because she wasn’t wearing pink like the other little girls were.

My daughter didn’t really care. Kids get over these things quickly and since she has plenty of other friends in and out of the classroom, two girls don’t make much of a dent in her social life.

My oldest, who is now a junior in high school, has a similiar way of looking at things. Looking back he always has and I am proud that he doesn’t feel like he has to wear certain clothing, listen to certain music or do any other “certain” things to be part of the crowd.

I’m sort of the oddball in my family. I’m the baby (by almost a decade) and have always had a different way of looking at things and different interests than my mother and sisters. This led to a lot of insecurity on my part and a desperate desire to “measure up” in the eyes of my sister and mother who have very specific ideas of what a wife and mother should be like. Now don’t get me wrong, they aren’t openly critical of me. They always tell me not to worry about what my house looks like or what I do or don’t do in my life.

It’s all inside me. And starting this year I’ve decided I’m sick of it.

I am going to set my own standards, live by them and not worry about hiding who I really am. I can see that it has caused a lot of my social anxiety issues and I’m not going to take it anymore. I am who I am. And the funny thing is that, even though I’m not the “perfect” wife, mother, and woman, there are plenty of people who love me and think I’m great. Time for me to start doing that too.

 So a couple of weeks ago as I was picking my daughter up from school I was standing and talking with one of the other moms. My daughter ran out of school and asked if the other mom’s little girl could come over and play. I responded in a lighthearted way, “Not today Honey. You have to give me a couple of days notice to clean up before having a playdate.” In the past I would never had dared say something like that – even though it is true. To my surprise the other mom said the same thing and complimented me on being comfortable enough to admit it!!

And just think about it for a minute. Don’t you admire most the people who are real and true to themselves? People who don’t waste their time worrying about what other people will think or say about them? I know I do.

So be brave enough to just be yourself. There will be people who like you and those who don’t. The ones who don’t, don’t matter.

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